作自己 Be Yourself

Yesterday afternoon, Pat called in to pass their spare Daily Mail to me. Also, her baby girl Judith came to say HELLO ~ It was a pleasant surprise really. Judith made this short trip all the way from the US just for Pat’s 70th birthday without letting the parents know beforehand. Having missed Mum’s 60th birthday,  Judith decided not to miss her 70th.

How sweet!! I recall how I once arranged a trip back to Taiwan with Beam and Boey. A week before our actual arrival date, I rang Dad, saying that I’d just posted a parcel to them so please make sure they would not be away for the next few days so as to sign for the delivery. Dad happily promised they’d be home.

One day before our arrival, I called Dad again, asking (cunningly!) if the parcel had been delivered. Well, you know the answer. I was just trying to make it sound more real.

THE day had finally come. When the three of us reached the house, I let Boey ring the door bell and respond, with one of his nostrils covered, to Dad’s ‘Who is it?’… ‘Parcel!’

We heard the living room door opening, and Dad putting on his slippers then coming out. When he opened the door, Beam hopped out from the corner, ‘BOO!!!’

I will never forget the big grin that immediately ‘burst’ on Dad’s face. He gave Beam a bear hug and called Mum, ‘It’s Xiang Xiang! They’re back!!’

I can be sure we were the happiest people in the world that day.

This is my first time meeting Judith but we did sort of correspond via snail mail in June. Marilyn, her daughter who was enjoying her summer vacation at the grandparents’, secretly passed a letter from Judith to me one day. They were planning a surprise party for Pat’s and Stephen’s 50th anniversary in the US. Part of it was to ask their friends sending a greeting card to the US and hopefully they could get at least 50 cards in total for the decoration.

I made a card for Pat and Stephen, together with two scenery postcards from Taiwan to tell Judith how lucky and grateful Beam and I felt to have Pat and Stephen in our life.

After they came back from the US in early August, one day, during our chitchat, Pat suddenly beamed at me, ‘Marilyn said, “From now on, I’m going to say it like Ja — Have a happy day!”‘

Puzzled, I asked, ‘Isn’t everybody saying that?’

Pat nodded, ‘Oh yes. Everybody’s saying that, particularly the Americans. But you know, the way they do it has sort of become a habit, like, for the sake of it, which doesn’t seem to be sincere any more. But you, you do it in such a cheerful and sweet way which distinguish yourself. You’re just being you.’

I was blushing. Turning 38 in one month’s time and I still haven’t mastered the art of taking compliments.

It’s always interesting to see myself through others’ eyes. Like this test result I’ve got on Blogthings.

You Make a Good First Impression

You probably are making a much better impression than you realize.
Social situations can be a bit awkward for you at times, and you tend to over think what you say and do.If you make a social faux pas, you remember it a lot longer than anyone else does.Just relax and do your best. There are little things you can do to improve your social image.Express more of an interest in the people around you, and be a good listener.The secret of fascinating people is that they find everyone else fascinating!

About two weeks ago, after having (yet again!) cleaned our garden for us, John asked me, ‘You’re going away?’

Guess he overheard the chat by the fence between Jenny and me. Jenny is his wife.

I nodded, ‘Yup. We were supposed to leave for Singapore in late July, but it’s since been postponed as my visa and passport are still travelling.’
‘For… for good?’

I looked at him in horror then started giggling, ‘Nooooooo ~ I love it here. Beam loves it here. It’s just for the school holiday really.’

John was obviously delighted, and relieved as well, to hear that, ‘Oh good! We don’t want you to leave!!’

These words certainly made my day!!!

I felt I had to joke about how it might be that John simply enjoyed working on my mini jungle because in the East we were taught to honour ‘modesty’ which, very often, means when you receive some praise you deliberately deny it one way or another. What puzzles me is — Why can’t we just accept them with humility if they are true?

Deep down, in my whole life, I’ve never felt so recognised and appreciated before. And it all came at the right time, because I had been feeling quite drained and self-doubts were gradually crawling up my spines.

Just like when Miss Lithuania said to me on Facebook that I was her inspiration. It really boosts my self-worth, but frankly, most of the time, I just don’t really know what I’ve done to receive such positive feedback which is truly reassuring.

Maybe, Pat has after all put it correctly, ‘You’re just being you!’

What a great revelation!

You Are A Good Friend

You’re always willing to listen to your friends.
And you’re the first to lend a shoulder to cry on.You’re there through thick and thin. You won’t stop being friends with someone when times are tough.In fact, you’re such a good friend that many people consider you their “best friend”!

You Are Charming and Natural

If someone were to ask you your secret to life, you’d just have to shrug. You don’t know how you do it!
You are naturally happy, friendly, and likable. You never try to be anyone else, and you don’t aim to impress.You are refreshingly honest and simple. People know what they get with you, and that’s reassuring.You are humble and sweet. You don’t know why anyone would consider you special, and that’s exactly what makes you so special.

You Are Self-Aware

You are a deeply introspective person. You believe that the most important thing is to be true to yourself.
You are quite vulnerable, but only because you work hard to let down your walls.You are emotionally honest at all costs. You know how to express your truth.You have a serious side, but you also can be uproariously funny. You have a good sense of irony.

昨天下午,派蒂把多買的 Daily Mail 給我,還帶了一個驚喜:茱蒂!

茱蒂是特地回英國來幫派蒂慶生的,因為錯過了派蒂的六十歲生日,她不願意再錯過七十大壽。而且,事前保密到家,就為了給媽媽 SUPRISE!!














無論如何,能夠從別人的眼裡看自己,始終是很有意思的一件事,好比這個 Blogthings 的測驗結果:








之後和朋友談起的時候,我開玩笑道,也許約翰太 enjoy 整理我們的迷你叢林了;其實,我是在掩飾自己的尷尬。我們的傳統文化裡,謙虛是如此被尊崇的美德,很多時候,似乎不得不刻意否定這類的讚美,才是合乎社交 禮俗。我不懂的是,如果別人是發自內心的真誠讚美,為甚麼我們不可以從容大方地接受呢?只要不驕傲張狂就好了呀。





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